Dan in Real Life

I just got back from seeing Dan in Real Life. I was impressed, more than I expected to be. I'd read reviews, and it looked like your average mixed up love triangle kind of movie, with your typical Hollywood romance ending, making null or wrong conclusions about what true love is. Well, it still did some of that...
But the humor, while intended for adults at times, wasn't crass. No explicit love making. One of Dan's brothers was in a stable marriage, however much he wanted something else a time or two. The other brother, who brought "home" the heroine, stayed true to his brother, even after the apparent betrayal.
While some don't think this line important, I was glad that they talked about how to control their relationship while it was inappropriate, and waited to do anything else until she had broken up with his brother. Not the "Tom Hanks steals Meg Ryan's heart while she's still in love with someone else, but all's fair in love and war, eh?" movie. Not that it felt any different to the brother, and they could have been more transparent.
Many scenes in the movie (like when the new lovers are discovered) are clearly manufactured for situational humor value, but this is a Steve Carrell, so what were we expecting? If you come looking for a goofy take on the mishaps during a weekend getaway of an otherwise stable and loving family (somewhat distinct from his role in Little Miss Sunshine...) You just may enjoy it enough to buy it.
We probably won't, because the null ending basically left the impression that the 14 year-old was right about love all along -- not the father who was happily married 15 years before the death of his wife. Having seen "Love at first sight (or at least less than three days)" both from the inside and the outside, He seems converted from "it's not love" to "it's all that counts in love". I would rather he had said, "Wow, this is a lot more powerful than I had thought, so I shouldn't ignore it. But let's take some time, get to know each other better, and make sure this is a long term good decision. Then we'll get the best of both worlds". I loved seeing him humbled, and to have his hypocrisy unmasked. But I'm not sure that what we find underneath is any better than the mask itself.